Here it is – my first post-conference post. After spending the past few days thinking about what the first post should be about, I finally narrowed it down to the most important element (for me):
Discipline
Maybe you’re a naturally disciplined person. Perhaps you’re one of those lucky ones who can set your goals and just DO them. You probably have a clean house. I suppose your bed is made. I bet you’ve never lost a pair of shoes in your own bedroom (they disappeared two years ago…I miss them). You write a weekly menu, have a designated day for laundry, and eat five servings of vegetables every day.
I don’t like you.
I used to be organized. I used to be able to plan my days. I worked full-time and maintained a social life. My house was ordered and neat. I liked it.
Then I got married.
I never had a brother. I’ve never had to think about anyone but myself. I only ever worried about my messes and my junk. (And I STILL haven’t figured out how the addition of one other person adds three times the amount of housework). I now find myself preoccupied with the house and drowning in dishes. I can find an excuse anywhere, and that’s my problem.
By the end of the day I often find myself looking back over the hours and wondering what happened. Why didn’t I write anything? Why is the house dirty? Why didn’t I go jogging?
Have you been there? I feel like I’m always there (I started this post over an hour ago. I keep getting distracted. At least I’m finishing it!)
I know that I went to the conference to learn more about fiction, and to speak with agents and editors, and to network and meeting more writers…but that’s not what’s stuck in my head.
Discipline.
I can’t get away from it. I suppose that’s because every writer there started by being disciplined. They set writing hours for themselves. They turn off their phones. They do whatever is necessary to get the job done! And I need that, desperately.
So this is where I’m going to start: 500 words a day, five days a week for the rest of June and all of July. I’ve already decided to take these months and devote them to studying novel writing (and setting my manuscripts aside). I don’t want to stop writing entirely, however, so I will still write at least 2500 words a week.
I’m also going to try to get those written before noon. I do my best work in the morning, when I’m fresh, and need to get into that habit. It IS hard in my tiny, packed house, but I have to start someplace. I think I’m going to have to set up a reward system too, but I haven’t gotten that far yet.
With those two goals I’m also giving myself deadlines – a point that Mary DeMuth stressed as vital to her growing process.
So that’s today’s lesson from the WTP conference. I’ll post another one this weekend.
Until then…what’s something that you can do to help discipline yourself? Do you have daily/weekly/monthly goals? Do you earn rewards for accomplishing those? And how do you help encourage someone else with her goal setting/discipline?
I just recently made writing goals for myself with a weekly word count. It's really helping with consistency and I find that I am more focused when I have writing time.
I had to laugh when I read this post. I was like: "Did I write this in my sleep? Sure sounds like me." LOL Just to warn you, the mess thing gets a whole lot worse once you have kids. I mean a WHOLE LOT WORSE. And the missing time multiplies, too. It's fun. Really it is. 😉
I'm tired of not getting enough writing time in, so I sat my hubby down and we discussed how we could improve things. Since selling the kids was out of the question, we came up with something else. I should get most of Thursdays (as long as the twins' pre-school teacher doesn't cancel class again), but I want more than that. I'm going to try Mon.-Wed. from 8-9. I don't know if it'll work because my brain is usually fried by then, but some days I might be able to get a few words out of it. And some days, I might even be able to start earlier than that and go later, too. Wouldn't that be nice?
Lynnette Labelle
http://lynnettelabelle.blogspot.com
You know, I've heard that about kids. Sure, they look all cute and cuddly, but I understand that once you have 'em there's no turning back. (I really DO want to have kids someday…but I'm thankful each day that is still my own!)
I have to keep specific writing hours each day. For me, it's 8-10:30ish pm. I tuck the little ones in…turn the older ones over to hubby and then shut the office door and write.
Great goals Karin!! Yes, I set daily/weekly/monthly and annual goals for my writing. They're all typed up in categories on one piece of paper. Every few months, I check to make sure I'm on track.
However, since I have such fierce writing goals, much of the house stuff has taken a back seat. I just can't do it all! And writing is more important to me than having a vacuumed living room more than once a week.
Good luck! I'm rooting for you!
I wrote an article about this very topic several years ago because it was such an issue for me. I cannot write in a dirty house. And I married a neatnick so my battle is even more difficult.
I'd recommend taking a look at http://www.flylady.net. They helped me get organized.
I'll look for the article and post it on my blog. I wrote it for a website but the site is gone now.