You deserve to stop suffering because of what other people have done to you.

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind? You know you can’t go on like this, but you don’t know what to do next. Lysa TerKeurst has wrestled through this journey. But in surprising ways, she’s discovered how to let go of bound-up resentment and overcome the resistance to forgiving people who aren’t willing to make things right.

With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of more than 1,000 hours of theological study, Lysa will help you:

Learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they’re sorry.
Walk through a step-by-step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today.
Discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now.
Identify what’s stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead.
Disempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.

This book took a while to read because it’s hard to read — not that the writing is difficult or confusing, but the content takes time to process (and sometimes re-read).

I picked up this book after several weeks of having it pop up in conversation, online, and during my daily God time. I took the hint and bought the book. I didn’t really think I have much unforgiveness in my life, but I was willing to read this anyway.

I was sort of right — I’d worked through part of my forgiveness issues, but the more I read, the more I realized how influenced I am by so many buried hurts and unaddressed issues. My experiences are nothing as extreme as TerKeurst’s, but I could still see how I wasn’t believing God because of some wrong perceptions I discovered while reading this book.

I can already think of a dozen people I’d like to give this book to in hopes that they could see some still-sore areas of hurt in their lives, but I’m not sure it’s such a good idea to encourage people to dig up pain if they aren’t ready to deal with it yet. I was in a place where I needed to read this, and I’m glad I did. I will prayerfully consider sending it to anyone else, as I wouldn’t want them to rehash their past if they aren’t ready to do the work of forgiveness (because I realize now that it can take a while).

What I especially like about this book is that TerKeurst wrote it after years of counseling and biblical study. This isn’t her interpretation or experience — it’s based on successful coping methods she learned in therapy as well as spiritual guidance from her ministry’s Bible scholar. She bases everything in Scripture, so you know it will apply to all situations, not just hers.

I highly recommend this book to pretty much everyone, but I would also highly recommend that you not pick it up until the Lord leads you to.

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